This activity will help you to consider what is happening ‘below the surface’ which influences how you behave.
The tool is built on the iceberg theory. We know that an iceberg has only 10% of its total mass above the water while 90% is underwater. But that 90% is what the ocean currents act on, and what creates the iceberg’s behaviour at its tip. Personal and relationship behaviours can be seen in the same way.
The Anger Iceberg
Often when we are angry, there are other emotions hidden under the surface.
This is what we call the Anger Iceberg, because it shows other emotions and feelings that may be hidden below the surface.
Sometimes it’s embarrassment, loneliness, depression, or fear. Other times, it’s a combination of several feelings.
Emotions and feelings in the example
What people see
What may bubble up occasionally
What’s below the surface