This activity will help you to think about how your thoughts, feelings and behaviours influence your relationship.
It will help you to recognise how you internalise behaviour which in turn affects how you feel, act and respond as an individual and as a partnership. It is built on an understanding that behaviours are shaped by your own thoughts and feelings, and that these can become a cycle, whether positive or negative.
Your thoughts, feelings and behaviours form a loop
When your thoughts are negative, you feel negative, and you take negative action, which causes more negative thoughts, and the cycle continues.
This loop becomes a repetitive and increasingly negative cycle.
Here’s an example:
What people see
When you ignore me when you’re watching TV
What you think
I think this means you don’t want to be around me
What you feel
This makes me feel unloved
What people do
I slam the doors to let you know I am unhappy